I can still feel and remember the moment – riding a bus from Inverness to Ullapool listening to Ben Howard and watching the Highlands through the window – where I thought that it would be amazing to work and travel at the same time. And in a conversation with a american business analysist in Kirkwall on the Orkney Islands I decided that I wanted to visit a new country each year. In 2 months this Scotland trip is a year ago and I have know visited 4 countries, 3 of them I have never been before, to work and explore.
When I think about this the only thing I can do is smile. And wonder. Because that is what I do. My mind is always thinking about why, how and what. Although… Ever since I decided how I want to live my life, it has been quiet more often.
This morning I watched a documentary about “The Secret”. This is one of those things that I wanted to do for some time now, but never made time to do it. The first time I had a thought about this was actually around 5 years ago. It looked interesting, but I was afraid to pick up the book and read it. But this morning I felt the urge to watch it. And the things I realized while watching this documentary are mindblowing. To me at least, you can think whatever you want.
Life’s a little bit messy. We all make mistakes. No matter what type of animal you are, change starts with you. – Judy Hopps in Zootopia
It all makes sense! I decided to living my life in a certain way and I have been feeling that this is the only option to do it. And when I think about this way of living I become so happy. I get butterflies in my stomach and the urge to smile, sing and jump of happiness. I took control over my own mind, body and life 3 years ago. I decided that I didn’t want to be led by fear, doubts or other people anymore. Every move and choice I have made in the past years has been me. Me. Not anybody else. Just me. I am so proud of myself and love myself for doing this. I changed from surviving to living each moment of my life. It’s hard to put in words, but last week I had a experience that made it very clear to me.
The picture on top I have made it during the ChangemakersXchange networking summit in Marrakesh – Marocco is one of the three new countries-. It was the second summit I participated in and to me it felt so different than the first time. In this summit I felt confident in what I do and who I am. This resulted in me taking better care of myself. I shared moments with people I wanted and wasn’t thinking about everything I might be missing out. When a moment didn’t feel right to me, I walked away from it. When the feeling of hugging somebody came up I did it. Expressing my needs towards getting hugged, but also having alone time created space.
The best thing about this experience was that I was feeling alive and didn’t need anybody to tell me that I was doing great. And when 4 people complimented me – who knew me from the first summit – that I have grown so much since last time, the only thing I could do was smile and tell them that I know and feel it. And the best moment of the summit for me was when I was told that nobody is invisible and definitly not me. And that he sees a strong person who isn’t affraid to go her own way. I don’t think people know what it means to me to hear this.
I guess you want to know how this can also happen to you. Or if you don’t, stop reading now and go do something else. So I watched the documentary “The Secret” and they explained it so well. The secret explains how the law of attraction works and how you can use this to become reach your goals. They defined a few steps to achieve your goals. I will implement my experiences from the past years or learnings from different theories and people in there too.
1. Ask for what you want
You can do this in so many ways. Meditate on what you want, create a visionboard, write your wishes down, carry a object with you that is a symbol for what you want or change the background of your computer to a picture or quote that inspires you. Don’t be affraid to wish for big stuff. But remember that big wishes also take longer time to get granted. The most important part of this step is that you really feel what it feels like when your wish is granted. Do you feel the happy butterflies fluttering in yourself waiting to get out? Capture and remember this feeling always. At least every morning when you wake up and you are brushing your teeth.
2. Visualize & belief
Over the past 3 years I have been doing yoga and meditation on a regular base and part of the practice is visualizing. A feeling, a moment, a emotion, a thought or a wish. When we visualize one of these things we are putting it out in the universe – this is what my yogateacher always says – and than we just let the universe to it’s part. When my yogateacher was saying this I never really believed her untill I started to secretly practise it. And it is true. Belief me. And keep believing it will happen. This is really important. Because the univers will also pick up on your negative thoughts and than it will definitly not happen. – I just realized this is actually sounding so floaty and I never would have imagined myself saying and believing these things.
Something you can do to keep believing is train your mind to be grateful. Again you can do this in many ways and you will have to find your own way because what works for me may not work for you. In august last year I started to take a picture of something that made me happy that day and I am now sharing these on Instagram everyday. When I see the pictures it reminds me again of the beauty in small things and I am so gratefull of being able to experience and see these things.
Once you have defined your wish, let it go. I know this is one of the most difficult things to do. For me at least. But I have learned that sometimes letting go is the most easy thing possible. Don’t think about how or when you are going to recieve your wish, just let it go. When you feel like you can’t let it go look at your symbol, visionboard, photo or quote and feel how you would feel when reach your wish is granted.
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the the first step. – Martin Luther King Jr.